Wondering here whether we should just let Okaasan wander in the evenings?
Last night we both got home about 6 pm - Okaasan had been out in the early afternoon for lunch in a local restaurant and of coutse come back with food shopping too. Then fallen asleep in front of the TV.
At 6 pm when we were coming home - SHE was ready to go walking.
"Yes, I went out lunchtime, but that isn't walking!" she told me.
She went out. Yujiro prepped dinner. At 7 pm we called her. At 7.20 she got home. At 7.30 pm we got her to the table. She sat there saying "It's hot isn't it?" and looking around the kitchen, looking at the food in front of her.
"No, I'm not hungry. I ate lunch. I ate something earlier. I'll eat it later etc etc".
So we ate her food and washed up and retired upstairs.
But I really am beginning to wonder. Maybe we shouldn't be calling her back home from this evening wanderings. Just let her go and come back in her own natural time. Give her food later if she wants it. But we will eat at 7 pm.
She is often a bit flustered and hot from having just come home...she won't starve if she doesn't eat dinner.
The main reason for getting her back to eat with us is to give her some kind of mental stimulation of conversation (such as it is!) with us round the kitchen table.
But maybe we shouldn't disturb her evening wanderings...just let her come and go as she likes and not force her into OUR schedule. Of course it means we'll have to go back into the kitchen after she returns to prepare the food again which is a hassle for us, but would let her come home and eat when she wants.
I suggested this to Yujiro...he is still thinking about it.