tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post3584974758370955553..comments2024-03-12T09:31:59.061+09:00Comments on Okaasan and Me: Day care - refusenikOyome-san1http://www.blogger.com/profile/17613603965553003711noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-28479139988698724392014-04-11T15:45:01.049+09:002014-04-11T15:45:01.049+09:00Oh yes, hope the cat is well by now. Good luck wi...Oh yes, hope the cat is well by now. Good luck with day care.<br />MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-68533240834437287162014-04-09T09:30:50.319+09:002014-04-09T09:30:50.319+09:00I have learned that it is difficult for grown chil...I have learned that it is difficult for grown children to accept that their parents develop health problems. My husband was in denial for years after his father had a stroke. <br /><br />However since you and Y are a team, he should consult you for imput and your imput should count for 1.2 of the vote. Okassan is not mentally cabable to make the best decision in her behalf. Of course men in general don't see that. I support not doing the underware runs and room cleaning. <br /><br />Hopefully he will reconsider. Tell him that atleast when at day care, she is safe and well cared for.<br /><br />MarilynAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-48670008494467969972014-04-09T09:06:26.613+09:002014-04-09T09:06:26.613+09:00Oh I KNOW...............actually I made a pact wit...Oh I KNOW...............actually I made a pact with myself during work yesterday to silently protest by stopping by underwear cleaning and room tidying....push all of that back onto him. See how that goes......<br />He does appreciate me - very much so - but he has large blinkers about his mother's abilities and dementia level. He lets things slide along....which is okay enough in summer...but it is the winter's I dread.Oyome-san1https://www.blogger.com/profile/17613603965553003711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-68290845707831611852014-04-08T22:49:20.781+09:002014-04-08T22:49:20.781+09:00Maybe what your boyfriend doesn't understand i...Maybe what your boyfriend doesn't understand is that you don't send his mother to daycare just for her. You also do it for YOU. So you can have some peace and quiet. So you can get some work done around the house. So you can have a cup of tea and a piece of cake. In a way, it is much like getting a babysitter for your kids. Sure, you don't NEED to, but it serves an important purpose.<br /><br />To be brutally honest, she isn't your mother-in-law. She isn't your mother either.. She is HIS. So, if HE wants to stay home and care for her, he is more than welcome to do so. Otherwise, he needs to shut up and be grateful that you are doing as much as you do. Otherwise, you can just walk out the door if you want to. Dear Son needs to realize that he's been frankly a bit neglectful in leaving so much up to you, and then not supporting your wishes. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com