tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post4646494759077248759..comments2024-03-12T09:31:59.061+09:00Comments on Okaasan and Me: Return of the spirits.Oyome-san1http://www.blogger.com/profile/17613603965553003711noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-36947022565031058952011-08-16T16:36:54.758+09:002011-08-16T16:36:54.758+09:00I'm with Kelly, My rellies are all in the grou...I'm with Kelly, My rellies are all in the ground in the town they lived in, my mum who died this year even bought and paid for her plot and marker in advance....me? I'll be toast and don't even want the kids to pick up any ashes (they usually only give you a little bit anyway).<br />Hope your thoughts move on to more cheerful things!origa-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14628501262873862887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-3103098962156432332011-08-15T17:08:42.256+09:002011-08-15T17:08:42.256+09:00I've been thinking about this too recently aft...I've been thinking about this too recently after going to the ceremony for the 7th anniversary of the deaths of my boyfriend's grandparents. At first I could only think that I didn't want to ever be a burden on the family in that way - that they have to spend money and time and effort on ceremonies and cleaning the grave and... <br /><br />And then I thought about what happened after my mother died (I was 11). We held the funeral and then she was cremated and I didn't even find out for years where she was scattered, and I thought about how much I would have appreciated having set times (one year later, seven years later, etc) to mourn, to get together with family and talk about her. I would have liked to have had a grave to visit too...<br /><br />So I can see the benefits of both ways... but I still think I'd rather be scattered somewhere green with trees and the ocean. The trouble is in Japan when you're cremated there are still bones left, which makes scattering a bit more... complicated...SomedaysSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07485017469544064676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-59733411433874201762011-08-15T15:50:33.064+09:002011-08-15T15:50:33.064+09:00I think sea is a good place too.
Of course the oth...I think sea is a good place too.<br />Of course the other reason for a decline in Family Grave situation, is that increasingly people live and die in a different place to where their children live...<br /><br />But it is odd...that in my family there was nothing about visiting a grave or a memorial stone..they had died...and that is all I know.....grandparents that is.Oyome-sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00658655347848108222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-40688556187053508322011-08-15T14:54:16.366+09:002011-08-15T14:54:16.366+09:00I think in Aus it's pretty normal to have a gr...I think in Aus it's pretty normal to have a grave. My grandparents, and great grandparents all have graves and every mums day/dads day/birthday/anniversary we are all obliged to trek up to the cemetary and visit graves...and funnily enough we all know where they are located, I guess it's just my families tradition. The only person in my family to be cremated is my grandpa on my mum's side and my doggie (who sits on my shelf). I will break with tradition as I would prefer to be cremated, and I think hubby does too.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11634221078922326881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-89979040988518142652011-08-15T13:15:43.353+09:002011-08-15T13:15:43.353+09:00that is interesting!
i have no idea what my paren...that is interesting!<br /><br />i have no idea what my parents want. my dad was in the navy and we moved a lot until he retired in 1991. they don't live anywhere near any of their family. my grandmother is still alive (she'll be 91 this year, i think) and her last husband (she's a widow; i'm talking about a step-grandpa here) had a funeral parlor so i imagine he's buried somewhere. not sure what the plan is for grandma. she was married three times but i think if she's buried it'll be next to her third husband. or not, it wasn't his first marriage, either, but i don't know if he was a widower or divorced.<br /><br />my grandfather (dad's dad) died when i was a teenager. my dad had him cremated and scattered his ashes somewhere (out to sea, maybe, my grandfather was also in the navy and also was a boat captain after that. i know he was eligible to be buried at arlington cemetery, but maybe my dad didn't want to go through the hassle.)<br /><br />hm, i've written a blog post here in your comments! sorry! i have no idea what will happen to me at the end. since i'll be dead, i don't think i really care, to be honest. as long as those who are still around have closure, that should be enough for me!illaheehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08109064612619771372noreply@blogger.com