tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post7295455441996897701..comments2024-03-12T09:31:59.061+09:00Comments on Okaasan and Me: And so.....Oyome-san1http://www.blogger.com/profile/17613603965553003711noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-17343354290396942732012-03-19T07:00:00.099+09:002012-03-19T07:00:00.099+09:00I think the "don't want to be a bother&qu...I think the "don't want to be a bother" feeling is SO strong. Of course, that's a great attitude and it keeps you independent in life...but it can also block you from recognising and accepting that help is at hand.<br />I'm like this too - an "I can do it myself" type of woman - and I fear I will be JUST like this when I am 80.<br />Where did you PUT the pads/diapers etc? Did she put them on herself? At the moment they are hiding round the corner of the sofa...but I think I should put them in the area where she changes her clothes - along with the pink top trash box.Oyome-sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00658655347848108222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2998844447617430892.post-42394639602846496652012-03-18T22:17:19.661+09:002012-03-18T22:17:19.661+09:00I am there with you....this is a really hard conve...I am there with you....this is a really hard conversation to have. I know for you that you want to give her the tools to make things less messy for everyone and for her she doesn't want to be a burden and at the same time doesn't want to face the fact that she has lost control of one of the most basic biological functions. <br />When our Ba-chan was still at home we were somewhat successful with pads and diapers, but I often had to deal with the mess of her trying to handwash and line dry them and also her washing them in the washing machine. It worked somedays and didn't other days....I remember similar conversations and the sadness- the only saving grace was that ba-chan often didn't remember the next day. <br />I really empathize with you- it is so difficult to navigate the grey area between facilitating independence and the practicality of hygiene and safety.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10855472047889043053noreply@blogger.com