Thankyou for your supportive, kind comments on the Japanese Cooking Fail No. 5889 - Do Not Ever Serve Korean Pancake with Rice. Ever.
But, it was all more ME over-reacting...and I don't really know why. Just tired after a weekend of cakes and tea party and stuff?
Yujiro actually told me this Handy Cultural Tip in a gentle, helpful way - and I blew up over it. He has learned that criticising my cooking isn't a great idea at the dinner table, and I think he has even trained Okaasan to just eat whatever is on the plate and not comment too much - because a year ago or so I had regular eruptions on this topic when they would comment that "in Japan XXXXX...." - now they just eat it without any comments, and while it is disappointing - it is better than outright helpful criticism.
So, in fact Sunday night it really wasn't his fault.
Mine. Large over-reaction.
The worst thing is: having a meltdown with the audience of Okaasan sitting there across the table. This multi-generational living means that what should only be a momentary scuffle between a couple is forced in control or not in front of an older family member. Grin and get on with it. Furious whispers in the utility room, furtive back patting, knee patting under the table....
But soon? I will fly away from all of this. 3 weeks from now I am going to England to see all my friends, for the longest holiday in ages and two days of Olympic watching.
Meanwhile, better go today and ask at the community center if the Thursday hula class has vacancies and Okaasan can go tomorrow and try out. And...how many performance events they have....