Thursday 29 June 2023

"Hello...again!"

 


A rose of Okaasan.
Hello, again! Remember us?
Dear Son...and that troublesome woman!

Yup. We are back to chat in your direction and disturb you.

Finally got into the hospital and upstairs and into Okaasan's room this week. First time to see her since November 2021.

We had to fill out a lot of paper work at the hospital reception desk. Temperature checks. Vaccination Status. Promise to contact if we have any sickness in the next 10 days. etc etc.
And then - given Visitor Tags and sent upstairs, the nurse gave us a kitchen timer set at 10 minutes, pressed to "On" switch and we were away on this month's visit!!!

Okaasan was in a shared room of 4 people, in a bed by the window. View over the rooftops. But she doesn't sit UP to see the view, or use a wheelchair. Life is spent lying down on the bed. She had tubes up her nose, but her hands were free.
I think she knew us. There was a glimmer of a smile, and her eyes went from the rose to our faces. We were not allowed to leave a live flower at her bedside, so it came home with us in a drinks bottle in the car. But at least she could see it.

We chatted on to eachother/her...about roses and weather, and our grey hair, and summer. Usual stuff to fill the no response "conversation". She looked well enough. Tired. But ok.
The Visitor Info Paper had asked us to keep a 1 meter distance, but as no nurse was actually watching I stroked Okaasan's hair.

And then the kitchen timer alarm went off. The nurse came to collect us. Okaasan looked confused by our sudden movement and "bye byes"...and we were gone....until next month. 

It was a looong time coming. But there we were.

This weekend we are having our annual big bbq bash. The one Okaasan used to hate. But I'm thankful I don't have to sober up at afternoon end to make her dinner, and placate her about all the people in the garden. All of that time has gone. Now I can just enjoy a bbq in my own home.

Onwards to next month. Another 10 mins on the timer?



4 comments:

  1. So glad you were "permitted" to visit MIL. Still don't understand such unbending rules. Wish you could have left the beautiful rose, Glad you got to have "eyes on", Wishing the next month goes quickly.

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    1. Yes, it felt strange to finally be sitting there with her! To think she has lived in that space, with those people for over a year - and we have never been there. They said she doesn't have the muscle power now to sit up in a wheelchair :-(, so my thoughts about being able to take her outside of the hospital doors sometime this summer....don't seem possible at all.

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  2. Hope you get to visit again soon,
    Laura

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  3. Hope you have had another in person visit.

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